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Friday, November 12th, 2010
11:38 am
How is female masturbation viewed according to halacha? Is it forbidden? Discouraged? Does it not really matter either way?
A fellow colleague asked me about this, in regards to a client we have in our program (OCD residential program).  Client experiences excessive amounts of guilt related to things she sees as religious/moral in nature (scrupulosity), and I didn’t know what the Jewish perspective is and how it relates to her level of OCD.

x-posted to my own journal and a few other communities
Thursday, July 30th, 2009
6:45 pm
Love and The Mikveh
Not the usual thing for this community, but I thought I'd post it anyway.
Love and The Mikveh
Cecillia Etkin is my grandmother. She passed away yesterday. May her faith and inspiration be a memorial of sorts.
Thursday, July 23rd, 2009
7:45 pm
Mod Post
So, I was talking to the lovely batshua and she said she missed the community. I do too. People join but no one has posted, so she suggested I make a post about it. I've always loved the openness of this community and that no subject was taboo. So I ask you, dear members, make my knish is delish the community it once was, vibrant, wholesome, fascinating and just a fun, supportive place.

- mod
Sunday, November 25th, 2007
2:58 pm
This is probably a silly question, but hey, it's Sunday and I'm bored and curious:

Is the use and ownership of condoms (for non-contraceptive purposes) prohibited by Halacha?

For example, in my work as a doula, I will often put water in condoms and freeze them for moms to place on their episiotomy incisions to ease their discomfort. I'm not preventing anyone from becoming pregnant...so are they just considered to be "tools"? Or is the actual ownership of  condom a problem in and of itself?

Current Mood: curious
Friday, November 9th, 2007
3:10 pm
Tuesday, October 9th, 2007
7:48 pm
Non-traditional mikvaot

Really, I should have gotten this out before yom tov, but hey, there's always another occasion for dunking.

There is not a good list (or, really, any list) of non-Orthodox mikvaot, so I decided to make one. Please distribute and modify it freely, but please include my email, onanothertopic@yahoo.com, and/or a link to http://mikveh.livejournal.com, as per this Creative Commons license. I wouldn't even ask for an attribution, except that it required a TREMENDOUS amount of effort to compile this, as anyone who has hunted for this info will attest. The first 15 or so were easy! ;-)

With any corrections, additions, or, especially, reviews of these fine establishments, please email me at onanothertopic@yahoo.com.

Enjoy and be well!

Non-traditional mikvaot (read: open, community, Conservative, Reform, liberal, non-Orthodox)Collapse )
Sunday, August 26th, 2007
3:12 pm
Are there brachot to be said before getting down and dirty?

Current Mood: curious...and frisky
Tuesday, August 7th, 2007
9:07 pm
Is an unmarried woman ever permitted to use a mikvah, outside of conversion?
Tuesday, July 3rd, 2007
11:07 am
Soul Mate Quest
Serious Question concerning the lives and loves of all! I know I'm not getting any less than ten answers to this, so feel free to give whatever interpretation you've got.

My friend went to a boys-only seminar a few weeks ago, and part of it was the discussion of soul mates. I had just heard a really good lecture explaining the idea of soul mates, and we brought it up later at Shabbat dinner with 4 female participants who each had their own ideas... The rabbi told him that each half-soul is looking for its mate (in order to become a "complete person"), and G-d is waiting for them to get to the same spiritual level. When they get there, they find each other and marry. If they don't though, G-d finds another soul which is just as good, hopefully, as the soul mate but not their perfect match. So the person who never reaches the same spiritual level as their soul mate never meets their perfect match.
Meaning, if you never got to the same spiritual level, you'd never find each other, AND if you fulfill the purpose you're supposed to have fulfilled (the idea of reincarnation) but haven't met your soul mate, tough luck.
As you can imagine, serious heated discussion ensued. Then the question of Leah and Rachel was brought up. What happens to women who are in polygamous relationships; do they not get the chance to find their soul mate? Does that mean guys have a better chance at finding her by marrying more?
And if you should really wait until you've had the chance to search the world for your perfect match (I can't remember the names, but there's the story of the sisters who waited until they were in their 40s to marry because they were waiting for their perfect match and they ended up very well-respected because of it), doesn't that mean that marrying very young, especially before you've totally matured, is a bad idea? And how does a shidduch or rabbi know they've found the soul mate/perfect match?

So many questions, not enough men...

Current Mood: confused
Thursday, May 17th, 2007
2:03 pm
Shomer Negiah Options
I'm not Shomer Negiah, never have been... Not getting into details of belief or practice, in general I understand and totally respect those who are Shomer Negiah for whatever reason they choose. I'm not planning on being Shomer Negiah right now although I've definitely cut down on my female-male interaction. I'm not looking for an answer having to do with the reasons behind Shomer Negiah, or why to be totally Shomer Negiah, but something in specific that I've wondered about for awhile. So my question is the following situation:
When women in general are menstrating, women who are in general not shomer negiah, what are thoughts on trying to avoid contact with men due to the fact that they're menstrating? They obviously aren't observing family purity issues, or going to the mikveh. I'm wondering if, even though yeah they're not going to the mikveh afterwards (I suppose you could, technically) and the guys in general wouldn't be people they're involved with, what thoughts/issues come up? Does touching between a man and a menstrual woman (who aren't involved) have a more powerful affect? Thoughts? Ideas? Something?

Current Mood: curious
Friday, April 27th, 2007
7:02 pm

HI, I'm new to the community but already I have a burning question. I'm Jewish...and gay (I'm a girl btw) and I really want to know if there is such a thing as having kosher girl-girl sex or whether that's a contradiction in terms. I hear such conflicting ideas and responces to that question but wander if here, I can get a clearer answer.

So if it is a yes.... what is kosher girl-girl sex? how is it different?

Shabbat shalom and thank you so much for your responces in advance


Wednesday, April 4th, 2007
8:19 pm
Together, Forever - Even In The Bathroom...
Chag Sameach, everyone!

Is there anything in halacha that forbids husbands and wives from going to the washroom in front of each other? This question is also meant to encompass the situation across the spectrum, ranging from, "Honey, can I brush my teeth while you poop?" to "Hey, let's make the bed up with rubber sheets and engage in water sports!"

Current Mood: curious
Sunday, March 4th, 2007
2:47 pm
Yiddish Wikipedia
(Crossposted to leatherjews and redknight.)

Did you know there is a Yiddish version of Wikipedia? I don't speak or read Yiddish, but I'm really curious to know why there was a flogger on the front page last Thursday (03/01). Unmodified screenshot at http://pics.livejournal.com/redknight/pic/0000gwt6

Current Mood: amused
Wednesday, February 28th, 2007
2:16 pm
Has anyone ever seen someone wearing really tall heels (ComeFuckMe shoes) who was *not* trying to send that particular message?
Wednesday, November 29th, 2006
12:48 pm
Have you ever been fetishized for race, and how have you dealt with it.
Friday, November 24th, 2006
11:06 pm
modesty and breastfeeding
i haven't posted here in awhile, but was curious the other day about rules of modesty, niddah, and breastfeeding.

i know that most women don't have their periods while nursing, (my son is almost 1 and mine thankfully still hasn't come back) but eventually it will. at that time, would a woman have to not feed her baby in front of her husband? i mean, sure for the most part, most nursing moms get pretty good at feeding their babies without showing anything, even to the point where they can nurse in public without anyone knowing what they're doing. but babies can be unpredictable and sometimes they just randomly let go and there you are. in public, the best thing is to have your shirt positioned over the baby so no one's going to see anything unless they are REALLY trying.

but at home? in the middle of the night? does it count if the husband is sound asleep?

note: we follow niddah laws in spirit, but not to the letter. i was just asking mostly out of curiosity.

x-posted to weirdjews
Friday, November 17th, 2006
12:28 pm
Are there halakhic issues with doing a pregnancy test Saturday morning?

Apologies if I missed this already, or if it's obvious-- can't seem to think straight last few days...
Thursday, November 9th, 2006
6:41 pm
I read on another message board that "the mishneh brura says that it is osur to have relations with an erection that one wakes up with ('morning woody')". Is that true?!?

Any links for the source?
Monday, October 9th, 2006
2:28 pm
BDSM and Shabbat...

File this under the "No, really, I want to know *EVERYTHING* about Judaism" category. I apologize in advance if this offends anyone - it's not my intent to...I'm just one of those people with way too much time on their hands and thus ponders about...well, this and that.

1. Can a couple engage in bondage/whipping/spanking/clamping activities on Shabbat? Or do these constitute "work"? 

2. What happens if someone ties someone up before Shabbos and then for whatever reason, the couple lost track of time and it's past candle-lighting...can the person be untied? If they are still able to eat, function and the restraints do not cut off their circulation...is it better for them to stay tied up until Shabbos is over?

3. Is it permissable to use Shabbat candles in wax-play? (Not the lit nes on your Shabbos table - I mean, say it's Tuesday, you are feeling naughty and the only candles in the house are the stash for Shabbos) Are they out-of-bounds because they were intended for holy purposes...or for any other reason?

Thank you, everyone!

Current Mood: curious
Wednesday, September 13th, 2006
10:10 pm
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